A
couple of weeks ago I spoke to you about love. I tried to clarify a bit what
Jesus means when He calls us to love one another. I told you that love,
according to Jesus’ definition, is patient and kind. Love will confront and
take risks. And love endures. This is what Jesus expects when He calls us to
love one another.
What
I’d like to do this morning is return to the topic of love and look at another
piece of what Jesus calls us to. To love one another is to offer comfort to
those who need it.
One place you can see this idea of comfort is 2 Corinthians 1.
One place you can see this idea of comfort is 2 Corinthians 1.
Blessed be
the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of
all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be
able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we
ourselves are comforted by God. 2 Corinthians 1.3,4
The Greek
word translated as ‘comfort’ is the word ‘parakaleo’. This word actually covers
a lot of territory and is sometimes translated by other words. If we’re going
to understand what Jesus’ kind of love is, what it means to comfort each other
in His way, we will need to take a look at these other meanings included in our
Greek word. In doing this, I want to help you to see more of what Jesus expects
when He calls us to love one another.
The
first word we’re going to look at is the word ‘encourage’. Here’s an example
from 1 Thessalonians.
Therefore encourage one another with these words.
That’s
our word parakaleo, but it’s translated here as encourage.
What
does it mean to encourage someone? A look at the word itself answers the
question. En‑courage. It is to give someone courage, courage that they are
lacking at the moment. So, there you are, talking to another believer who is
having a problem. He is battling away at it, and has been for a while, but it
isn’t going well. In fact, he wants to quit. He is dis‑couraged. He lacks the
courage to fight on. I imagine that many of you know how this feels. You have
experienced something like this yourself.
So,
how do you love this brother or sister? What do you do to give comfort? The
answer is clear. You give him the courage that he needs to return to the
battle, to continue to fight until he conquers the problem. You encourage him.
But
how do you do that? What exactly do you do? Well, one thing is simply being
there. A big part of discouragement is feeling that you are alone in the
battle. Knowing that there is someone there with you can be a very big help. It
makes a difference when you know that we are in this together, maybe separately
fighting different battles but together fighting the same war.
That
verse from 1 Thessalonians that I just read lets us know what else needs to
happen. Listen again.
Therefore encourage one another with these words.
Paul
was writing to these saints about a problem they were struggling with. A battle
they were fighting and not winning. So, he had words to give them that would
help. This is what he wrote.
But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those
who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. For
since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God
will bring with him those who have fallen asleep. 1 Thessalonians 4.13,14
Some
of the believers in that church had died and those who remained were
overwhelmed by that. They missed their friends and thought that they would
never see them again. So, Paul explained to them a part of the Gospel that they
needed to hear: we will all be reunited when Jesus returns. These were words of
hope for those who were grieving. Notice that Paul doesn’t only write these
words to them. He also instructs the saints there to remind each another with
these words. So, you see, we encourage with words.
But
please note that it isn’t just any words. What if Paul had only written
something like, ‘I’m sorry that your friends died. I’m sure that somehow it
will work out’? Those are empty words. They have no power. But to remind
someone of the hope of the Gospel is different. There is power in those words,
power to give someone the courage to fight on.
So,
one way that we love, one way that we comfort one another, is by wisely
encouraging each another.
Here’s
another way that our Greek word is translated: consolation.
Now there was a man in Jerusalem, whose name was Simeon, and
this man was righteous and devout, waiting for the consolation of Israel, and
the Holy Spirit was upon him. Luke 2.25
The
idea of consolation is all about helping someone deal with sorrow or
disappointment. There are more than enough times when we feel that sorrow or
disappointment. To love one of the saints who is in this situation, to comfort
him or her, we offer compassion, sympathy, solace. That’s consolation.
And
again, how do you do that? Listen to Paul’s advice.
… weep with those who weep. Romans 12.15
There
are times when there are no words to be said. There are times when all you can
do is hug the other person and be sad with him or her. Sometimes a good hug
makes a really big difference.
But
usually - though maybe not immediately - there will be a need for words, too.
Words help us to understand what’s going on. And that also makes a really big
difference. Again, pick your words carefully. Words that are merely sentimental
don’t really help. And church words that are offered without thinking about
them don’t help either.
When
it comes to dealing with the grief that evil leaves behind what’s needed are
words that are rooted in the Gospel, words that explain something of what Jesus
is doing. And sometimes what that means is to simply remind someone of what he
already knows. We all need reminders. It is as we wisely console that we are
able to comfort, that we are able to love.
Then,
one more word: exhort. This is another way that our Greek word is translated.
We need to be careful. Exhort can be another of those church words that we use
without really thinking about what it means. To exhort is to spur someone on,
to urge him to action. Here’s an example.
But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called
“today,” that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin. Hebrews
3.13
Being
a faithful Christian is hard. There are difficult decisions to be made,
sacrifices to be faced and accepted, and battles to fight. And it’s just a fact
that the temptation to give up is never far from any of us. Some just might
give up because they have been ‘hardened by the deceitfulness of sin’. It has
happened. Some of you have seen it happen in people you thought were solid
Christians. They were fooled by sin, and they gave up. They walked away from
Jesus. So, we are called to exhort each other to continue to endeavor, in
humble reliance on the grace of the Holy Spirit, to live as becomes followers
of Christ. There is comfort in that. It results in a renewed resolve to face
the evil and to fight on. There have been too many times when someone turned
away from Jesus because no one was there to exhort him, to urge him on, to spur
him to action. How sad that would be if it were to happen to one of us.
Again,
we need to be wise in how we do this. Shouting some commands at someone isn’t
the way to do it, though there are times when an exhortation will include a
rebuke. And while there are times when the exhortation points to the danger
that lies at hand, there are other times when the exhortation is about the
blessings that are promised. We need again to be wise in how we do this.
Encourage.
Console. Exhort. This is how we comfort each other. This is how we love.
By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if
you have love for one another. John 13.35
Now,
a couple of questions to bring this home.
Here’s
the first. Why do this? Why should we reach out to others in the ways that I
have described? A major influence of our lives has been the myth that we are
able to do it alone, we are able to live well depending on the resources that
we have in ourselves. Rugged individualism. What foolishness. It’s a failure to
believe the Gospel.
Every
few weeks we recite the Apostles’ Creed. And so, we declare, ‘I believe in …
the communion of the saints’. One of the themes of the Gospel is that we are in
this together. If we believe the Gospel, including that theme, then we will
work to comfort each other.
This
might become clearer if you think in terms of being on the receiving end. There
you are, and you’re struggling. Maybe you’ve just been told something that is
making you anxious or you’ve failed again to avoid that persistent temptation
or whatever. What would you want in a situation like that? What you would want
is some help. And Jesus has set things up so that we can get that help. He has
given us each other. When you think of this with you on the receiving end, it’s
very understandable. So, do unto others as you would have them do to you.
That’s
the why. Now, the how. How do we do this? For us to comfort each other
according to Jesus’ definition demands a lot. For one thing, we need to
understand people - and not just understand people in some generic sense,
though that is true. But we will need to understand the person standing in
front of us when he needs some comfort. What kind of comfort does he or she
need? Is it encouragement? Or maybe it’s consoling. Or exhorting? When do we
use words, and when do words have to wait? To understand people - here think
about the people who are sitting around you - takes time and effort. It means
listening carefully to what they are saying when life is going well for them so
that you can have some sense of what to do when life isn’t going well for them.
It means getting to know each other. And being able to comfort also means
knowing the Bible. It means knowing what the Bible has to say about how people
think and feel, as well as knowing what words to say. To be able to comfort
others well takes insight and skill.
And
that leads to this. We need the power of the Spirit. Our words and our hugs are
impotent if that’s all we have. They might touch the surface of a problem, but
they will never get at the heart of the matter. So, we need to pray. We need to
pray that the Spirit will give us the insight that we need. We need to pray
that the Spirit will give us skill to say the right words when it’s time to
speak, and to hug and just listen when it’s time to do that. We need to pray
that the Spirit will bless us so that we can give comfort to each other,
comfort that we all need.
As I’ve
said before, I am persuaded that life for American Christians is going to get
difficult. The culture is against us, and it is more so every day. We need to
be ready to support each other so that we will be able to make it, to endure to
the end. And as we do respond well to all of that, as we do love one another,
people will come to know who we are. Because of how we love each other they
will know that we are disciples of Jesus, the Savior of the world.
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