Sunday, March 17, 2013

Honor and Happiness

As you read through the Gospels you get the feeling that Jesus didn't have a lot of really close friends. Yes, there were Peter, James and John. But there don't seem to be many others. An exception to this was Mary, Martha and Lazarus. As you read John's Gospel, you sense that these people were special to Jesus. We're going to look at one particular situation that involves Jesus and these close friends. (John 11.1-16.)


So, what happened? The basics are not complicated. Lazarus is seriously sick. His sisters send a message to Jesus. 'Lord, he whom you love is ill.' They want Jesus to come and heal him. Not an unreasonable request. Lots of people, strangers even, asked the same of Jesus. So, what does Jesus do in response to this request from these friends whom He loved? John is quite clear. He did nothing. He stayed where He was. And this wasn't because He didn't know how serious the sickness was. He knew. A couple of days later He is ready to travel to His friends. But He knows what has happened. He knows that Lazarus has died. Some of Lazarus' neighbors later ask a question that seems right to ask.

Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man also have kept this man from dying?

We know that Jesus could have healed Lazarus. It would have been easy. He didn't even have to leave where He was. A word from His lips would have done the trick. He healed like that before. Why didn't He do it here? Didn't He care about these people that he supposedly loved? Didn't He know what it would feel like to watch someone you love die? Jesus gives some insight when He explains why this was happening to Lazarus and his sisters.

It is for the glory of God, so that the Son of God may be glorified through it.

So, Lazarus had to experience death, and Mary and Martha had to endure the grief of mourning for their dead brother so that the Father and the Son could be glorified? They had to suffer so that God could be made to look good? Is that what this is about? Yes, that's exactly what this is about.  They suffered for God's sake. This is another instance of a theme of the Bible that can be best put like this: your happiness is not the priority of this universe. As important as your happiness might seem, it is not most important. It is not at the top of God's list of things to accomplish today. God being glorified is what's most important. That's what is at the top of God's to-do list for today and for every day.

We all agree with that. After all, we're in a church, and this is a sermon. We're supposed to agree with it. But what about when we're not in such a religious context? Do we still agree when it's just another day on the job or at home, dealing with whatever? Ever get frustrated with something, disappointed when what you were expecting doesn't turn out the way you had hoped? What do you tell yourself in those situations? 'Well, the most important thing is not my happiness. The most important thing is that the God that I worship is honored. I hope that this disappointment results in that even though it hurts.' Is that what you tell yourself in those situations? It's not an easy thing to say. There are many ways that we can be frustrated and disappointed. There are many ways that life can hurt. Does that mean that we need to put aside our desire for happiness, accept the hurts of life in the hope that they will advance the honor of our God? Yes, we do. That's why we were created. And that's why we were redeemed. We exist to make God look good. And sometimes that will mean that someone close will die, and you'll be standing there overwhelmed by grief. How do you think Mary and Martha felt? And while tears and heartbreak are not just allowed but a good response to that - remember, Jesus wept at Lazarus' grave - still, the underlying attitude is that if this leads to making God look good, then fine. It hurts, but it needs to happen this way.

Paul agreed and so he wrote:

… it is my eager expectation and hope that I will not be at all ashamed, but that with full courage now as always Christ will be honored in my body, whether by life or by death.

Did you hear that? For Paul the highest priority was not for him to be freed from the prison from which he wrote those words. His highest priority was that, whether he was released to live a bit longer or he was put to death by execution, Christ would be honored. He understood that the priority of this universe was not his happiness but making Jesus look as good as He really is. He provides a model for us to imitate.

Now, why would I want to talk about this? We live among a people who completely reject this way of living. The common assumption today is that the most important thing is being happy. And when that is not happening there is anger, bitterness, despair and worse. They are convinced that life is simply about becoming as happy as you can. And if you look at things from their perspective of unbelief, does anything else make sense? Is it any wonder that our culture is falling apart? It is a culture that has rebelled against God's purpose for it. But what is so incredibly sad is that there are way too many Christians who, whether because of ignorance or because of rebellion, pretty much live according to the same assumption. They live and even pray pursuing the same goal: to become as happy as they can. Does anyone think that God will just stand by and watch as the honor of His name is put, at best, in second place?

Jesus was quite clear about proper priorities when He called people to be His disciples. 'If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself…' Following Jesus starts with a person acknowledging that the priority of this universe is not his happiness. The priority is that God be honored, that His Name be hallowed. And it is when the Church recovers this way of thinking and living that she will once again fulfill her calling to be light in a very dark place - but not before.

We see in this incident with Lazarus, Mary and Martha how Jesus lived according to this principle. The honor of God is the highest priority. And if that means that happiness needs to be sacrificed so that He would receive that honor, then so be it. This lies near the heart of real discipleship. God's honor is the priority of this universe and of every person who lives in it.

That's one side of the coin. It is, however, very important that I remind you of the other side. The two must go together. So, while it is just a basic fact of reality that the priority of this universe is the honor of God, it is also a basic fact of reality that that God treasures your happiness. While it is not the first thing on His list, it is clearly a very close second. It is more important than whatever else might be on His list. He wants you happy. And the proof of that is Jesus. He was sent by the Father so that you could be happy. Bear in mind that, after Adam's rebellion, God could have very easily said, 'Let them all go to hell.' Could anyone blame Him? And yet, that is not what He did. He sent His Son so that you could be happy. And please remember what 'He sent His Son' means. The Father crushed His Son, His only Son, the Son whom He loved, on that Cross so that you could be happy. If that does not make clear to you how important your happiness is, then nothing will. And it is just a fact that you will become happy, happier than you can imagine. The Father has promised that and Jesus guarantees it.

Now, let's put the two sides of the coin together. On the one side is the notion that pursuing God's honor is the highest priority of your life. It is more important than anything, including your happiness. On the other side of that coin there is the simple but profound fact that your God is committed to bringing you into total happiness. The two go together.

And we can see how they go together in what Jesus was doing when He heard about Lazarus' sickness. Listen again.

Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. So, when he heard that Lazarus was ill, he stayed two days longer in the place where he was.

The whole thing turns on that one word, 'So'. It's not what you'd expect. You'd expect John to write about how Jesus loved these folk. HOWEVER, to further the goal of God's honor, He put aside His love for them and let them suffer. But it's not 'however'. Rather, it's 'so'. In fact, the word John uses is usually translated 'therefore'. Jesus loved these folk, THEREFORE He stayed put. THEREFORE, He let Lazarus die.

Jesus loved these friends of His. He wanted them happy. And with that in mind He brought them into a very painful situation, the worst. Lazarus must die. But He brought them into this experience because He loved them, because there are important things to be learned in the midst of that painful experience. And not merely learned in the mind, but learned in the heart. The mind, the will and the affections all need to learn. One of the things to learn when Jesus brings you into one of those painful situations is that your happiness is not the priority of the universe. The honor of the God who runs this universe is the priority. But as you learn that, and live that way, you find that that is the route to happiness. The route to your happiness is not by making it the most important goal of your life. The route to your happiness is pursuing the honor of God as the priority it actually is.

Let me just touch on this additional thought. Your living this way isn't just about the growth of your happiness. Jesus will bring you into those painful situations for the growth of others in their happiness. Listen again to what Jesus said to His Twelve.

Lazarus has died, and for your sake I am glad that I was not there, so that you may believe.

The suffering of those three friends of Jesus was a great benefit to the Twelve. Their suffering helped the Twelve to believe Jesus, to entrust themselves to Him. And happiness is impossible without entrusting oneself to Jesus. So, it's good to remember that your suffering is also for the benefit of others. As you enter the dark valley and then as your faithful Savior leads you out of it, others see what has happened, and they are encouraged to believe Jesus. They are helped to a greater experience of happiness by your pursuit of the honor of God at the cost of your happiness.

So, what do you do with this? One thing to do is to prepare for those times when you will be called upon to sacrifice your current happiness for the sake of the honor of God. And one way to do that looks back to last week's sermon. Nurture a growing loyalty to Jesus. Loyalty rooted in love will sacrifice anything for the sake of the one who is loved. So, teach your heart about true priorities and nurture loyalty to Jesus.